Gay Marriage: Thoughts On The Church Standing Firm

Gay Marriage: Thoughts On The Church Standing Firm

In June of 2015, the Supreme Court of The United States ruled that same sex couples could now legally marry throughout the country. And, honestly, I can see how culture’s definition of marriage would be marrying whomever you love, considering where we are in post-Christian America. But the Bible defines for us what marriage is: one man and one woman in a monogamous relationship for life. Within this context God blesses and is with the man and woman in the marriage. This is the three-fold cord that is not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).

There is no mention in the bible of a pastor, or a priest, or a judge performing a wedding ceremony. I believe that is the purposeful design of the Holy Spirit, because it is God, not man, who performs the wedding. And God will only preside over and bless a marriage that is according to his definition. So, if anyone, even a pastor, performs a wedding outside of the biblical definition, it will not truly be a marriage at all, even though a “wedding” has been performed.

Yet, I understand personally what it is like to be in love with someone of the same sex and want to marry that person…and I was a born again Christian at the time. How can that be? A lot of people these days would say that it is because I was born with a homosexual orientation. I do not believe that is true. I believe that my same sex attraction (SSA) was a product of my natural gender development being interrupted, how I perceived things, my sin nature and demonic temptation, all working together to produce the resulting SSA.

But what is most shocking to me is that evangelical bible-believing pastors and churches are capitulating from biblical truth and embracing homosexual behavior and marriage as just fine with God, and blessed by him. Many are beginning to let culture define biblical marriage, instead of continuing to let the Holy Spirit interpret biblical truth on the subject: Mega churches like Eastlake Church in Seattle and head pastor Ryan Meeks, who did a Time Magazine article to let the world know that his interpretation about homosexual marriage and homosexuality being sin had been wrong all along. Now, he and his leadership see homosexual Christianity as a social justice issue.

You can see Ryan Meeks message to his church announcing his changed position, and all of his leadership’s agreement with it here: http://vimeo.com/117433538.

I realize that there are many brothers and sisters among us, who are truly Christians, who are still experiencing SSA, or just have no attraction toward the opposite sex, who have come to accept it, and are living in a celibate commitment before the Lord, asking him for the grace to do so daily. Some, honestly, are not even thinking about it very much at all as they walk with the Lord. But, for the Christian who is experiencing tremendous attraction continually, I do not believe that that person has a “gift of singleness.” They really need to seek help from the Lord, and from solid, mature, seasoned, and biblically sound ministries like this one in order to be released from the battle they are in. Christian counselors/psychologists who are in agreement with the bible that homosexuality is sin, and that SSA is an emotional issue that can be understood and changed are also tremendously helpful.

I know this for sure: When I left the woman I loved, not because I wanted to, but because God gave me an ultimatum, (that homosexuality was sin, and same sex marriage was not a marriage at all and not an option for a Christian), I needed my church to be in agreement with God! Leaving the woman I loved was the hardest thing I have ever done, and I needed my church to be a place where they were in agreement with what God was telling me, not in conflict with it! If my church had decided to go with the winds of culture, and capitulate their stance on solid, biblical theology as interpreted by the Holy Spirit and not by cultural norms, I would have been very confused and depressed about the mixed messages of what Jesus was telling me, (to leave this relationship) and what my church was telling me. Instead, my church strengthened me to pick up my cross and follow Jesus. Yeah!

I’m so glad I was not going to Eastlake Church, or any other church that has caved in to culture and the lure of money, the lust of fame, or the love of personal family over their love for truth. I want to call the church to repent of such things. My faith may have been shipwrecked forever if I had been going to one of these churches at that point in my walk with Christ. Thank the Lord Jesus, that he was faithful, that my church was faithful, and that I am free from the bondage of lesbian thinking and behavior because of the faithfulness shown to me through the Lord and his Body.

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not is passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. The Lord will punish men for all such sins, as we have already told you and warned you. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, he who rejects this instruction does not reject man, but God, who gives you his Holy Spirit.” 1Thessalonians 4:1